Stripping bare and getting naked in front of 5500 strangers, friends and fellow queer folk doesn’t scare me…but the risk of leaving myself exposed absolutely does.

Being unwilling to strip bare is what's leaving you exposed.

It’s tempting, right?

To relegate entire feelings, energetic states and ways of being down to one of two categories. A binary of masculine or feminine. This or that. In or out. All or nothing. Our brains love a binary for good reason. It makes things seem easier. That sense of “easier” can have a cost though.

Stress acts as a libido blocker and so many smart women are in a tend and befriend relationship with it. They say: stress has gotten me to this point. And striving has gotten me to this point. And it's given me a certain degree of success.

And what our brains do is go:  I'm here these are all the things I did to get here in order to get there, I'll just double-time those original efforts.

Mmm but Libido doesn’t respond to that. There’s another way.

Your pleasure. Your aliveness and your capacity to feel are always important. It's always of the utmost priority. Even when the circumstances out there feel in complete opposition to that. There is no way that we can continue to keep evolving and to keep doing what we do best as humans without you being in what you would consider a turned on state for yourself. We can't do it without you being your most turned on self.

When you love your work, it’s easy for your libido to slip away. But why? And WTF should us workaholics be doing to get our libidos and sex drives back? I’ve spelt it all out for you in this blog. Dating, changing your habits, getting into sex…all the work has been done for you. Which is just what a workaholic needs.

If you're one of the 80% of women who experience painful sex in their lifetime, the Ohnut could be an incredible tool to help you feel powerful, comfortable and present in the bedroom. But what exactly is the Ohnut and does it actually work? Sexologist Lauren White reviews the Ohnut, shares exactly how to use it and includes her video review.

Being an introvert does not exclude you from having a libido and loving sex! Being an introvert does not necessarily mean that you are shy, more that you need to conserve your energy in different ways and express yourself in a quality over quantity fashion. You as an introvert are awesome and so is your libido! Go get it.

Do you feel afraid or scared of sex and intimacy but don’t really know why? Do you love your partner and would do anything for them but suddenly they approach you and you can feel your guard come up? I’ve noticed that women share a common fear in intimacy (and life) that is holding them back from their greatest potential. Are you ready to find out what you’re really scared of in sex and intimacy?

You might think that the real thing that’s holding your libido back is being a parent, having a long-term relationship that feels more like a roommate, a high-pressure career, juggling responsibilities…but these things are just consequences of what is really stopping your beautiful libido from stirring you up. Deep breath, the real thing that’s holding your libido back is…not what you think.

Do you LOVE your job/work (can you even call it a job?) SO much that your libido is kind of…nowhere? Is it possible that your high output for work has left nothing in the libidinous tank? If so, it’s all good…well, it will be if you take a moment to install these 3 steps to still keep the love for your work AND feel your libido.

You don’t need to suffer in silence if your hypertonic (overly toned) pelvic floor is preventing you from experiencing penetration - and I don’t just mean sexual penetration. If you feel like you just can’t insert tampons and you have avoided pap smears for years (because getting the speculum in is challenging) then you could well have a hypertonic pelvic floor. Please watch this…

You’ve shut down in and about sex more times than you can remember. There may have been a pivotal moment you’ll never forget or maybe it was this gradual disconnection that happened over time. Each factor compounding the last. Whatever the origin, I want to give you permission to open and move out of sexual shut down…

Ahhh satisfaction - that sweet end point where we hunger no more.

But how do we know when we feel it? How do we know when we have arrived? 

Only you can answer that one so if you are feeling like frustration is ruling your bedroom and satisfaction is nowhere to be seen, read this one to make sure you aren't accidentally overlooking your sexual satisfaction (it could well be right in front of you)