Why you’re not turned on in sex - even though you love them
You thought sex didn’t matter as long as you had their undying devotion… but now that you’ve got it, you’ve lost the thrill of the unknown – the very thing that used to turn you on.
And even though you love what you have as a couple, when it comes to sex, it’s just not doing it for you.
There’s no obstacle to overcome. No mystery to unravel and be transfixed by.
It’s all a little same-same, predictably bobbing along with the rest of domestic life.
So when they lovingly grab you from behind in bed or raise their eyebrows with a “do you wanna?”
It makes sense your first response isn’t a breathless: fuck yes, let’s go
but something closer to: do we have to?
And even when you internally roll your eyes, remind yourself you love them, and go along with it, all the devotion in the world can’t fix the frustration of sex that has little in it for you.
Because while devotion gave you the safety you craved, safe is also a sure-fire way to switch off the arousal that used to pull you all the way in.
Now, it isn’t about abandoning that love of loyalty and commitment but a question of:
Are you up for holding both the devotion and the desire for not always knowing exactly what comes next?
All that’s happened is you went all in on the hope that devotion would equal satisfaction…
…when satisfaction only arrives when there’s some push and pull in the bedroom.
…when sex and the erotic becomes a dance between safety and risk.
Between having and not having.
Between knowing and not knowing.
So if you’re done with sex that feels like a weak handshake between friends and ready for it to feel like a wanton tryst between lovers, you’re primed to enter my one-time session: Erotic Alchemy.
This is where I teach you to master erotic art of alchemising frustration to fulfilment – fast.
