Keeping the peace in your relationship is costing you your bisexual desire
If you’re working that hard to keep the peace with him – you don’t already have it.
Which means every time you use it as the reason to not claim what you want sexually…you’re sacrificing yourself for something that was never really there.
And I find that fascinating. Because it’s so unlike you.
Especially when we both know you stopped keeping the peace in business years ago.
Citing it as the enemy of growth, of truth, of everything authentic you’re actually building toward.
But in your relationship…
in the sanctity of your bed…
that’s exactly what you’re doing.
Accelerating in business while your desires – the ones you consider out of bounds, too much, too taboo – stay in first gear where it’s supposedly safe.
And sure, you can justify it because you get along fine and you share the same fine version of life.
More to the point, once you get started sex is also fine.
You can go through with it.
You can even climax (with the right fantasy).
But it doesn’t move you.
It doesn’t stroke the part of you aching for something more honest.
You don’t want fine.
You want to be moved. Cracked open. Honest about what – and who – you actually desire.
Claiming that truth isn’t a threat to your peace.
It is the peace.
And when you’re ready to stop keeping it and start living it – this is where we begin.
