Libido

What you’re really scared of in sex and intimacy

What you’re really scared of in sex and intimacy

Do you feel afraid or scared of sex and intimacy but don’t really know why? Do you love your partner and would do anything for them but suddenly they approach you and you can feel your guard come up? I’ve noticed that women share a common fear in intimacy (and life) that is holding them back from their greatest potential. Are you ready to find out what you’re really scared of in sex and intimacy?

Pre-menstrual dysphoric disorder : How to experience sex and intimacy when you have PMDD

Pre-menstrual dysphoric disorder : How to experience sex and intimacy when you have PMDD

PMDD affects approximately 5% of women and has been called ‘PMS on steroids’. The experience for women on a monthly basis can be horrific - bringing their life grinding to a halt and sex and intimacy…well, that can get really complicated. Learn what you can do when it comes to sex, intimacy and your libido when PMDD symptoms are bad and what forms of empowerment and connection can channel the anger into something cathartic.

The real thing that’s holding your libido back

The real thing that’s holding your libido back

You might think that the real thing that’s holding your libido back is being a parent, having a long-term relationship that feels more like a roommate, a high-pressure career, juggling responsibilities…but these things are just consequences of what is really stopping your beautiful libido from stirring you up. Deep breath, the real thing that’s holding your libido back is…not what you think.

How to feel your libido when you are addicted to your work

How to feel your libido when you are addicted to your work

Do you LOVE your job/work (can you even call it a job?) SO much that your libido is kind of…nowhere? Is it possible that your high output for work has left nothing in the libidinous tank? If so, it’s all good…well, it will be if you take a moment to install these 3 steps to still keep the love for your work AND feel your libido.

Does stress affect your libido?

Does stress affect your libido?

Stress is totally normal right? Yup, it’s an expected part of being human and showing up in the world. Yet if it is suffocating your libido then that is something that we need to address and I’ve got some very tangible advice to give to your very tangible stress. How do I know what your stress needs? Let’s just say that stress + sex is totally my jam so you’re in the least stressful of hands with this one…

How often does a sexologist have sex?

How often does a sexologist have sex?

Surely a person who has studied and works with sex every day has A LOT of sex…Right? Right? *cicadas* Well, no. Sexual frequency is such a personal thing and in this blog and in my life, I keep the focus on the quality rather than the quantity and I only ever want the same for you. Here is your permission slip to have a sex life kinda like mine…

How to get your libido back when you've lost it

How to get your libido back when you've lost it

Hello. Hello. Hello. Yes, there is an echo here because I'm at a point in my life where when I call for my libido, I hear something back from it. I get what it's like to be disconnected from your libido. To want it back when you feel like you've lost it. I REALLY don't want it to stay this way for you because your libido has potential. You know how I know? Because I have witnessed so many women source their libidos when they take the time to step back and look back in with fresh eyes…

Will our relationship last if the sex is bad?

Will our relationship last if the sex is bad?

Sex isn’t everything in a relationship but when it is bad or crap…well, it starts to become pretty darn important. Now, it may not be a reflection of you two as a couple - more a reflection of bad habits. Deep breath before you read this one - it’s a truth talk extravaganza. I’m getting real with you about some of the reasons why your relationship might not outlast the bad sex that’s happening.

How to get sex started when it’s been a long time

How to get sex started when it’s been a long time

This time around, we aren’t going to talk about the why’s or the what happened’s that got you in a place of low libido, low desire and low interest although, those are important. Today, we are going to talk about 5 things you can do to break the ice when it has been a long time since you had sex. Totally realistic and totally gentle, I promise.

3 ways to be better at giving in sex

3 ways to be better at giving in sex

The people who make the best givers are those who know how to receive. Yup, I stand by that! Last weeks blog was ALL about receiving and getting to a much better place with that. Now, I want women to create better boundaries and containers around their giving so that it comes from a much healthier, less martyr-mode driven place. This one is important.

Interview with Lauren: High achievers, anxiety, orgasm and money

Interview with Lauren: High achievers, anxiety, orgasm and money

Sex and relationship coach Haley Helveston recently interviewed me on Instagram live and we talked all things permission, being a high achiever, feeling anxious, Permission, pressure, orgasm and money! That’s a lot for just 30 mins! Have a read and pick out the pearls - I spoke them just for you…

Permission to open : Why do I shutdown in sex?

Permission to open : Why do I shutdown in sex?

You’ve shutdown in and about sex more times than you can remember. There may have been a pivotal moment you’ll never forget or maybe it was this gradual disconnection that happened over time. Each factor compounding the last. Whatever the origin, I want to give you permission to open and move out of sexual shutdown…

Female Libido: Is there a pill I can take for my low libido?

Female Libido: Is there a pill I can take for my low libido?

I get asked this on a regular basis - surely by now there is some sort of pill a woman can take when she feels her libido could be more. In this video, I explain why I am glad there isn't a pill for the female libido and what else you can do to enhance presence and arousal. Refreshingly, your body already has all the answers...

Your libido and money - reflections of worth and pleasure

Your libido and money - reflections of worth and pleasure

Libido….

Money….

Is there a connection there? I reckon there is! When women get clear on their worth and on the money that comes into their lives, they get more comfortable within their sexual expression because their bodies aren’t in fear and contraction. When the money and worth flows nicely, so too does the sexual energy…

8 ways to feel your libido as a mum

8 ways to feel your libido as a mum

Nits, hospital visits, daycare runs, playdates, screaming...it can all feel very...unsexy.

If you are a mama looking for a quick checklist to getting moving back with your libido again then here are my 8 hottest tips. Remember, you can be both a mama and sexual (this is your new mantra). 

 

What to do when your partner has a higher libido than you

What to do when your partner has a higher libido than you

They have a HIGH libido and I have none.

Words I have heard a bazillion times but simply aren’t true. Can you hear me? They aren’t true! This one is for both of you: how you can feel your libido when you are out of touch with it and how your partner with the “higher” libido can meet you in more ways than sexually. This is an important read.