Why you don’t want sex – even though it’s good when it happens
Sex feels good when it’s underway.
But you don’t actually want it before it begins.
And in that moment of recognition, you’re tussling between:
Pushing through with it just to get to the good bit or
Getting out of it because your desire doesn’t show up on cue.
And when desire doesn’t show up on cue, it feels like a verdict –
Of you.
Of them.
Of the chemistry (or lack of) in the relationship.
So before anything can even happen, there’s heaviness – a density born from paying attention to what isn’t there.
But then, one of your self-pep talks works.
You go ahead.
And together you pull out all the stops to get to the good bit where sex finally clicks.
Because once it’s underway, your body remembers.
Stimulation warms you up and you realise you’re IN.
Pleasure builds, climaxes, and subsides.
And just as quickly, it evaporates.
Leaving no craving. No hunger. No desire for more or for next time.
Because desire can’t return to something that is simply *good* where the baseline is built on what *isn’t*.
Desire only returns, ravenous, when the baseline is fed by what is.
What’s alive. What’s available. What’s palpable.
When your erotic baseline shifts directly and irrevocably into what is, desire stops being something you try and grasp when you need it
and becomes something ever present in you, unbidden.
This is the work of Erotic Alchemy.
Where you alchemise what holds you back into currents of pure erotic presence to access choices you never knew you had.
So sex doesn’t just feel good once it’s underway – it’s absolutely mind-blowing…and you want it before it even begins.
