I want women around the world to have a full libido cup but wouldn't you know it, this is one we have to reverse engineer in a way. Depletion from career, motherhood and lifehood actually asks for us to subtract and then add. You'd think depletion needs us to start adding first. Nope. I decided to answer this one in a video so as many women as possible can hear the message - how to really fill your libido cup UP.
Do you feel afraid or scared of sex and intimacy but don’t really know why? Do you love your partner and would do anything for them but suddenly they approach you and you can feel your guard come up? I’ve noticed that women share a common fear in intimacy (and life) that is holding them back from their greatest potential. Are you ready to find out what you’re really scared of in sex and intimacy?
Hormonal contraceptives and your libido aren’t known for being BFF’s and once your read this blog, you’ll get why. Grab a cuppa and let’s talk - seriously - about why your libido is better off the pill (and hormonal contraceptives).
Sex therapy online isn’t in the future - it’s here now and it’s available to women who can’t attend sessions in person or require the convenience of showing up to their process remotely. Even if you struggle with tech phobia, being on a video call with your sex therapist is really just a click away (literally. One. Click.) So if you’ve been using your location as a reason NOT to show up then this blog will show you all the pluses (and a few minuses) of online sex therapy.
PMDD affects approximately 5% of women and has been called ‘PMS on steroids’. The experience for women on a monthly basis can be horrific - bringing their life grinding to a halt and sex and intimacy…well, that can get really complicated. Learn what you can do when it comes to sex, intimacy and your libido when PMDD symptoms are bad and what forms of empowerment and connection can channel the anger into something cathartic.
You might think that the real thing that’s holding your libido back is being a parent, having a long-term relationship that feels more like a roommate, a high-pressure career, juggling responsibilities…but these things are just consequences of what is really stopping your beautiful libido from stirring you up. Deep breath, the real thing that’s holding your libido back is…not what you think.
In Permission, I tell the story of how I am standing in my kitchen on my birthday screaming: I don’t belong ANYWHERE! Since that moment, I still get that feeling but I manage it a lot differently. Learn how I twist ‘I don’t belong!’ around rather than self-isolate and wallow. It's time to show up because you belong...to yourself.
Do you LOVE your job/work (can you even call it a job?) SO much that your libido is kind of…nowhere? Is it possible that your high output for work has left nothing in the libidinous tank? If so, it’s all good…well, it will be if you take a moment to install these 3 steps to still keep the love for your work AND feel your libido.
Stress is totally normal right? Yup, it’s an expected part of being human and showing up in the world. Yet if it is suffocating your libido then that is something that we need to address and I’ve got some very tangible advice to give to your very tangible stress. How do I know what your stress needs? Let’s just say that stress + sex is totally my jam so you’re in the least stressful of hands with this one…
Surely a person who has studied and works with sex every day has A LOT of sex…Right? Right? *cicadas* Well, no. Sexual frequency is such a personal thing and in this blog and in my life, I keep the focus on the quality rather than the quantity and I only ever want the same for you. Here is your permission slip to have a sex life kinda like mine…
When your libido feels far away and it’s getting you down, all you want is to FEEL it, right? When a client asked me how she could feel her libido I jumped at the chance to share this with her and now, you get to reap the benefits too. Go right to the end of this one to get your FREE Libido Checklist - your libido won’t look back (or feel low) again.
Seeing a sex therapist might cost you in money but I urge you to see it differently. In this blog, I speak into what money you may need to part with to gain your sexuality and how this is a sound investment in yourself. Before you tighten your purse strings about seeing someone privately, take some of the following into consideration…