8 ways to upgrade your Power & Pleasure as a Leader (even in testing times)

Every day is a potent day to decide to catapult your power and pleasure into new realms as a leader.

Admittedly, I wrote this piece for the annual event that is the Lions Gate Portal (8th of the 8th), only to realise that what I’m about to share doesn’t require astrological alignment.

You just need to decide.

To give you the all-killer, no filler version, I've naturally called upon the three pillars of my mentoring process: 

  • Sovereignty

  • Seduction and

  • Sensuality

...to anchor you into what awaits you when you muster the gumption to live a life that is anything but ordinary.

My biggest tip is to source a way to fold the following into what you journal and the words you speak the next couple of days. Simply reading this alone won't generate the stratospheric shifts you secretly desire.

Here are 8 Ways to activate your Power & Pleasure as a Leader (even in testing times)

#1 STANDARDS

Carve standards for yourself and BE them. Setting standards naturally creates boundaries. 

DO: Say - I consort with this person as they are at my connection standards. I no longer take this action as it doesn’t meet my new energetic standards. 

DON’T: Tolerate poor treatment or people who drain you dry of your juice.

#2 DECIDE

Ambivalence. Indifference. Love/Hate and neither here nor there are lukewarm ways of moving through life that drain your libido of power. 

DO: Decide one way or the other how you feel about something/someone and move on with clarity. 

DON’T: Linger, hover or dare project this energy onto other women - it’s actually a reflection of how you feel about yourself so decide to love on you. 

#3 SILO

Create a silo of influence that is watertight. Every single interaction, friend, follow, subscription, TV show, scroll… ALL OF IT says: this is what I value, this is who I am now and this is where I’m going. 

DO: Make it watertight to take your energy seriously and keep gunning for your desires.

DON’T: Hold on and default to what people historically know you for. If it isn’t those things above, release it/them. 

#4 MONEY

Enjoy the process of money coming to you and releasing it. Don’t use the words ‘expensive’ or ‘exorbitant’ etc. 

DO: a come hither motion with money and summon it to you. 

DON’T: Act from desperation, neediness and force. More personal power equals more money 

#5 APPEARANCE

Your appearance matters as it’s a visual of the glory and richness inside of you. Congruence is sexy. 

DO: Look at yourself… a lot. Catch a glimpse of yourself in any and all the reflections. Watch yourself dance in front of a full length mirror. And by God dress up once in a while and get professional photos of yourself. 

DON’T: Pretend it doesn’t matter or you don’t care. It’s a lie you tell yourself to stay put.

#6 FANTASISE

Bring your fantasy world into the 3D world. Make them one and the same so the difference is minimal. 

DO: Live out what’s only in your mind. Befriend them and love on them - especially if they feel taboo or like your shadows on steroids and definitely, DEFINITELY self-pleasure to them.

DON’T: Deny yourself, say it isn’t possible and keep your life mainstream and ordinary to fit in. Fantasies don’t fit in or have laws. They are lawless.

#7 BEAUTY

Make your world aesthetically beautiful and more tactile to let pleasure know it matters. You are a sensory creature and need more novel sensations to stimulate you. 

DO: Access new spaces and places that bring all your 6+ senses alive. If it gives you goosebumps or a flutter, that’s your green light. 

DON’T: Choose what’s cheap but doesn’t satisfy. True beauty is priceless. Classic. 

#8 SOUND

Is the missing link from you being in your body and truly releasing the built-up shit. Your uninhibited sound will unlock all of the power and pleasure inside.

DO: Speak your dreams, sigh, audibly exhale, scream, laugh out loud, say ooooooh in everyday life and in the bedroom. 

DON’T: stay quiet and lock your jaw. You’ll feel like chronically pent up, flow will feel illusive and life will feel subsequently stagnant. 

#9 MENTORING (BONUS!)

The secret weapon for every successful person out there. It should be a space you can say anything about your power and pleasure, personal and professional without judgment so your life can flow in the way you desire it to. Is an uncensored space built on love, trust and mutual respect where feeling integrated is the goal.

DON’T: Hire the person who makes you feel comfortable and keeps you in your head and focused on the strategy AKA Old Alpha Ways.

DO: Hire the person who stretches and activates the F out of you and puts your energy first AKA New Femme Waves.

Now is the most powerful time to enlist the high calibre support that will see you imbue your Power & Pleasure throughout every aspect of your life. 

The result? You move through life as the Embodied Authority that traditional measures of success hasn't been able to generate within you, and therefore, outside of you.

This work, it changes everything for you, everyone who looks to you and everyone who comes after you.

And I'm personally inviting you to officially step into the portal with me for 20 minutes.

Here's where you take the next step.

Lauren xo