You don’t think about it. You don’t yearn for it. It only comes up on your radar when someone else mentions it or asks for it. Sex is well on the backburner for you and a lack of interest in it means that you may have stopped seeking it out altogether.

Now for the official definition. Lack of sexual desire is the persistent or recurrent deficiency (or absence) of sexual fantasies/thoughts and/or receptivity to sexual activity that causes personal distress. It tends to refer to the more subjective side of sex – your internal experience of it. It does not necessarily mean that you experience low arousal or that your body does not respond with sexual excitation (although these two can intertwine), more that there is not a lot of internal stimuli to keep you interested and coming back for more.

Low sexual desire or a lack of sexual desire is common amongst women. There are a number of reasons and causes for it and it definitely does not mean that you are ‘not sexual’. It merely is an indication of other things that may be getting in the way of you looking forward to and feeling more excited about the prospect of sex.

To read more about low sexual desire, have a look at our blog entry – Low Sexual Desire: Why is it so hard?