Hormonal contraceptives and your libido aren’t known for being BFF’s and once your read this blog, you’ll get why. Grab a cuppa and let’s talk - seriously - about why your libido is better off the pill (and hormonal contraceptives).
PMDD affects approximately 5% of women and has been called ‘PMS on steroids’. The experience for women on a monthly basis can be horrific - bringing their life grinding to a halt and sex and intimacy…well, that can get really complicated. Learn what you can do when it comes to sex, intimacy and your libido when PMDD symptoms are bad and what forms of empowerment and connection can channel the anger into something cathartic.
You might think that the real thing that’s holding your libido back is being a parent, having a long-term relationship that feels more like a roommate, a high-pressure career, juggling responsibilities…but these things are just consequences of what is really stopping your beautiful libido from stirring you up. Deep breath, the real thing that’s holding your libido back is…not what you think.
Do you LOVE your job/work (can you even call it a job?) SO much that your libido is kind of…nowhere? Is it possible that your high output for work has left nothing in the libidinous tank? If so, it’s all good…well, it will be if you take a moment to install these 3 steps to still keep the love for your work AND feel your libido.
Stress is totally normal right? Yup, it’s an expected part of being human and showing up in the world. Yet if it is suffocating your libido then that is something that we need to address and I’ve got some very tangible advice to give to your very tangible stress. How do I know what your stress needs? Let’s just say that stress + sex is totally my jam so you’re in the least stressful of hands with this one…
Surely a person who has studied and works with sex every day has A LOT of sex…Right? Right? *cicadas* Well, no. Sexual frequency is such a personal thing and in this blog and in my life, I keep the focus on the quality rather than the quantity and I only ever want the same for you. Here is your permission slip to have a sex life kinda like mine…
When your libido feels far away and it’s getting you down, all you want is to FEEL it, right? When a client asked me how she could feel her libido I jumped at the chance to share this with her and now, you get to reap the benefits too. Go right to the end of this one to get your FREE Libido Checklist - your libido won’t look back (or feel low) again.
Hello. Hello. Hello. Yes, there is an echo here because I'm at a point in my life where when I call for my libido, I hear something back from it. I get what it's like to be disconnected from your libido. To want it back when you feel like you've lost it. I REALLY don't want it to stay this way for you because your libido has potential. You know how I know? Because I have witnessed so many women source their libidos when they take the time to step back and look back in with fresh eyes…
Sex isn’t everything in a relationship but when it is bad or crap…well, it starts to become pretty darn important. Now, it may not be a reflection of you two as a couple - more a reflection of bad habits. Deep breath before you read this one - it’s a truth talk extravaganza. I’m getting real with you about some of the reasons why your relationship might not outlast the bad sex that’s happening.
This time around, we aren’t going to talk about the why’s or the what happened’s that got you in a place of low libido, low desire and low interest although, those are important. Today, we are going to talk about 5 things you can do to break the ice when it has been a long time since you had sex. Totally realistic and totally gentle, I promise.
The people who make the best givers are those who know how to receive. Yup, I stand by that! Last weeks blog was ALL about receiving and getting to a much better place with that. Now, I want women to create better boundaries and containers around their giving so that it comes from a much healthier, less martyr-mode driven place. This one is important.
You’ve shutdown in and about sex more times than you can remember. There may have been a pivotal moment you’ll never forget or maybe it was this gradual disconnection that happened over time. Each factor compounding the last. Whatever the origin, I want to give you permission to open and move out of sexual shutdown…
I get asked this on a regular basis - surely by now there is some sort of pill a woman can take when she feels her libido could be more. In this video, I explain why I am glad there isn't a pill for the female libido and what else you can do to enhance presence and arousal. Refreshingly, your body already has all the answers...
Is there a connection there? I reckon there is! When women get clear on their worth and on the money that comes into their lives, they get more comfortable within their sexual expression because their bodies aren’t in fear and contraction. When the money and worth flows nicely, so too does the sexual energy…
They have a HIGH libido and I have none.
Words I have heard a bazillion times but simply aren’t true. Can you hear me? They aren’t true! This one is for both of you: how you can feel your libido when you are out of touch with it and how your partner with the “higher” libido can meet you in more ways than sexually. This is an important read.
Whenever we crave a fresh start, our sexuality isn't the first place we usually start. Unfortunately, it usually gets relegated to the 'I'll deal with it later pile'. This is a shame because looking inward at our sexuality and libido can treat the rest of our problems with such potent medicine and make our personal growth to-do list a whole lot smaller.
Today, I invite you to ask if your libido can be a part of your fresh start (and I'll give you some tips to do that!)