Feelings

Pre-menstrual dysphoric disorder : How to experience sex and intimacy when you have PMDD

Pre-menstrual dysphoric disorder : How to experience sex and intimacy when you have PMDD

PMDD affects approximately 5% of women and has been called ‘PMS on steroids’. The experience for women on a monthly basis can be horrific - bringing their life grinding to a halt and sex and intimacy…well, that can get really complicated. Learn what you can do when it comes to sex, intimacy and your libido when PMDD symptoms are bad and what forms of empowerment and connection can channel the anger into something cathartic.

The real thing that’s holding your libido back

The real thing that’s holding your libido back

You might think that the real thing that’s holding your libido back is being a parent, having a long-term relationship that feels more like a roommate, a high-pressure career, juggling responsibilities…but these things are just consequences of what is really stopping your beautiful libido from stirring you up. Deep breath, the real thing that’s holding your libido back is…not what you think.

Does stress affect your libido?

Does stress affect your libido?

Stress is totally normal right? Yup, it’s an expected part of being human and showing up in the world. Yet if it is suffocating your libido then that is something that we need to address and I’ve got some very tangible advice to give to your very tangible stress. How do I know what your stress needs? Let’s just say that stress + sex is totally my jam so you’re in the least stressful of hands with this one…

How to bring the romance back into your relationship

How to bring the romance back into your relationship

Candles, flowers, champagne, rugged Scottish men or women sweeping you off your feet…what one person finds ROMANTIC and what another person does can be two different things. Promise me, no more just wishing romance will come into your relationship without you saying or doing something. Read this first, it’ll help you to get clear and give you a few how-to’s with bringing the romance back into your relationship quick smart.

Permission to feel angry : Why you need to stop suppressing what you really feel

Permission to feel angry : Why you need to stop suppressing what you really feel

Women aren’t meant to get angry. That’s an emotion for men. Sure, we can feel a little frustrated or edgy but anger? No. Way.

Your anger is valid and you have permission to not only feel it but express it. Find out what could be triggering off anger when it comes to sex and intimacy and how you can get it out of you.

Permission to open : Why do I shutdown in sex?

Permission to open : Why do I shutdown in sex?

You’ve shutdown in and about sex more times than you can remember. There may have been a pivotal moment you’ll never forget or maybe it was this gradual disconnection that happened over time. Each factor compounding the last. Whatever the origin, I want to give you permission to open and move out of sexual shutdown…

Your libido and money - reflections of worth and pleasure

Your libido and money - reflections of worth and pleasure

Libido….

Money….

Is there a connection there? I reckon there is! When women get clear on their worth and on the money that comes into their lives, they get more comfortable within their sexual expression because their bodies aren’t in fear and contraction. When the money and worth flows nicely, so too does the sexual energy…

How to prioritise your sex life when you are busy

How to prioritise your sex life when you are busy

Busy, flustered, run down and overwhelmed are the name of the modern-day game. But all of these states spell something seriously toxic for your beautiful libido.

This blog needs to come with a warning for it’s exceptionally high level of truth talk where I kindly inform you that you aren’t actually busy (but you are choosing to be) and how you can create space for intimacy all by unearthing a few old time blocks.

How to feel sexually confident with your partner (when you’re feeling anxious)

How to feel sexually confident with your partner (when you’re feeling anxious)

There is a gap that exists between anxiety and confidence. A leap even.

It isn’t too hard to close this gap, you’ve just got to believe that anxiety isn’t your permanent state and that everything you need to become the sexual woman is inside of you. Seriously. Anxiety wants to tell you that this is how it is only, it doesn’t always tell the truth. Let’s reduce your anxiety so that you can come into confidence with the following 5 tips.

If he’s the love of my life, then why am I not sexually interested in my husband?

If he’s the love of my life, then why am I not sexually interested in my husband?

Long-term relationships are riddled with sexual disinterest. But why?

Shouldn’t things get better as our love grows deeper? One of the biggest conundrums my clients have is getting their heads and bodies around the fact that you can feel safe and in love but not want to have sex. If this is you, read on to get some insights into what could be going on and what you can shift to get the interest flowing again.

What do you do if you are not sexually satisfied? (rather than pretend you don’t care)

What do you do if you are not sexually satisfied? (rather than pretend you don’t care)

Ahhh satisfaction - that sweet end point where we hunger no more.

But how do we know when we feel it? How do we know when we have arrived? 

Only you can answer that one so if you are feeling like frustration is ruling your bedroom and satisfaction is nowhere to be seen, read this one to make sure you aren't accidentally overlooking your sexual satisfaction (it could well be right in front of you!)

COUPLES: 5 ways to get into sex and intimacy on holidays

COUPLES: 5 ways to get into sex and intimacy on holidays

Your holiday is booked. You are so ready for the relaxation part but then you get tense thinking about all that time alone with your partner. You know they are going to want to have sex, maybe more often than usual because you are obligation free. Crap. What excuses can you use not to? What new ways can you avoid them? Well, rather than shutdown, I reckon you've got it in you to OPEN up. Here are 5 ways you can do that to make for some good quality holiday sex...

Low sex drive in women: why you have lost interest in sex (and what to do about it)

Low sex drive in women: why you have lost interest in sex (and what to do about it)

The only way you can even think to describe your sex drive is that it is low or non-existent. The only way you can even begin to describe your interest in sex is that there isn't any. But you love your partner (if you have one) and you really want to say goodbye to these persistent blocks that prevent you from feeling intimate and into IT. Deep breath, this is a deep journey into your sex drive and interest in sex. Read it all and feel yourself already walking away from inhibition and being checked-out of your own personal life.

FEELINGS: Increasing your self worth by day to increase it by night

FEELINGS: Increasing your self worth by day to increase it by night

Self-worth and sex. They are inextricable. The benefit of having solid self-worth is that we start to understand the points in our lives where we are holding ourselves back from not only what we want to call in now but what we want to call in for the future as well. I really want to ask you today, is your life and sex life on a loop because your low self-worth isn’t igniting you to take any action?

MINDSET: Why you need to stop thinking of sex as dirty

MINDSET: Why you need to stop thinking of sex as dirty

Recently, I was talking to a client about lying in the mess. You probably already know you have a problem with mess if you spring out of bed as soon as sex is finished (and it isn't just to do a wee because you are worried about a UTI). You find the mess of sex, like the fluids and lubrication all a bit messy. And messy makes you screw your nose up. Today I am asking if you could try befriending the mess a little more...

Why your anxiety and apprehension about sex is normal

Why your anxiety and apprehension about sex is normal

I want to talk to you today about anxiety in sex. And apprehension. And all the fear and jumbled, heavy, dense emotions that swell through sex for women. I did a post recently that said anxiety doesn’t want you to be sexual and I thought that I could expand upon it today because it is the reason why women come to me for coaching. It is this experience of being blocked, shutting down, numb and completely lacking libido. So much of that can be traced back to the fact that they feel anxious about sex.

Why you have a high libido (even when you think you don’t)

Why you have a high libido (even when you think you don’t)

You have a big libido. It is boundless and has everything and nothing to do with sex.

Your libido can rage and roar for the non-sexual and leave nothing in reserve for sex.

I have a high libido but it doesn’t translate clearly or directly to sex. My libido is my power source and it can burn so brightly that it burns out. I don’t like to admit this. When I use the word power source, I don’t necessarily mean it as a fuel but representative of my actual power.

Guess what happens when I don’t feel my power?