pain

Women's Internal experience of pain with sex

Women's Internal experience of pain with sex

You don’t need to suffer in silence if your hypertonic (overly toned) pelvic floor is preventing you from experiencing penetration - and I don’t just mean sexual penetration. If you feel like you just can’t insert tampons and you have avoided pap smears for years (because getting the speculum in is challenging) then you could well have a hypertonic pelvic floor. Please watch this…

Permission to open : Why do I shutdown in sex?

Permission to open : Why do I shutdown in sex?

You’ve shutdown in and about sex more times than you can remember. There may have been a pivotal moment you’ll never forget or maybe it was this gradual disconnection that happened over time. Each factor compounding the last. Whatever the origin, I want to give you permission to open and move out of sexual shutdown…

8 reasons you’re experiencing pain with sex (and how to fix them)

8 reasons you’re experiencing pain with sex (and how to fix them)

Both experiencing and anticipating pain can strip the possibility of sexual pleasure away quicker than anything else. I have come to learn so much about sexual pain and pain with sex through my clients and professional colleagues that I put together this post to let you know that you are not alone. Many of us are working tirelessly to help you feel your own version of what it is to be a woman. You are heard and we are here to help. This, is for you...

VLOG: The gratitude rebuttal

VLOG: The gratitude rebuttal

Why you don’t need to tap into gratitude all the time. Here’s my issue with gratitude...I’m noticing that women are using gratitude as a cover-up. A cover-up to their genuine feelings which may be perceived to be negative or painful. Gratitude has moved into a type of deflection. But when we don’t acknowledge what we are feeling in the present moment, I don’t believe we ever truly process it. Hear how I use my own medicine as a sexologist to clear shit before pleasure.

WOMEN: Why perfectionism is the enemy of your sexuality

WOMEN: Why perfectionism is the enemy of your sexuality

Perfectionism is the phoniest of all the masks that women wear. And now that I can spot it in an instant, it frankly bores me. No, it angers me. It angers me for me, for you, for my sisters, for my daughter… I don’t get jealous anymore because if I meet you, I know what you have given up to be that way. You’ve given up your joy, your warmth, your humanism, your vitality and your authentic sex life.

PAINFUL SEX: A stop sign to sexual pleasure

PAINFUL SEX: A stop sign to sexual pleasure

Not knowing how to approach sex from the beginning of the sexual pain problem leads some down a path of aversion – If something that was pleasurable now causes pain, I just won’t do it anymore…This is logical reasoning on a part of the individual but what a loss to miss out on sexual contact and connection because of a condition that can be helped by select professionals.