libido

How to get your libido back when you've lost it

How to get your libido back when you've lost it

Hello. Hello. Hello. Yes, there is an echo here because I'm at a point in my life where when I call for my libido, I hear something back from it. I get what it's like to be disconnected from your libido. To want it back when you feel like you've lost it. I REALLY don't want it to stay this way for you because your libido has potential. You know how I know? Because I have witnessed so many women source their libidos when they take the time to step back and look back in with fresh eyes…

Your libido and money - reflections of worth and pleasure

Your libido and money - reflections of worth and pleasure

Libido….

Money….

Is there a connection there? I reckon there is! When women get clear on their worth and on the money that comes into their lives, they get more comfortable within their sexual expression because their bodies aren’t in fear and contraction. When the money and worth flows nicely, so too does the sexual energy…

8 ways to feel your libido as a mum

8 ways to feel your libido as a mum

Nits, hospital visits, daycare runs, playdates, screaming...it can all feel very...unsexy.

If you are a mama looking for a quick checklist to getting moving back with your libido again then here are my 8 hottest tips. Remember, you can be both a mama and sexual (this is your new mantra). 

 

How to prioritise your sex life when you are busy

How to prioritise your sex life when you are busy

Busy, flustered, run down and overwhelmed are the name of the modern-day game. But all of these states spell something seriously toxic for your beautiful libido.

This blog needs to come with a warning for it’s exceptionally high level of truth talk where I kindly inform you that you aren’t actually busy (but you are choosing to be) and how you can create space for intimacy all by unearthing a few old time blocks.

What to do when your partner has a higher libido than you

What to do when your partner has a higher libido than you

They have a HIGH libido and I have none.

Words I have heard a bazillion times but simply aren’t true. Can you hear me? They aren’t true! This one is for both of you: how you can feel your libido when you are out of touch with it and how your partner with the “higher” libido can meet you in more ways than sexually. This is an important read.

From the sexologists desk: Permission Book UPDATE

From the sexologists desk: Permission Book UPDATE

So. I am writing a book.

And I’m not just saying this off the cuff.

It is well and truly in motion. Happening.

And I want you to be the first to learn ALL about it as it plods (or more aptly flows) along.

Learn more inside about how the idea came to me and what the process of writing a book is like!

Low sex drive in women: why you have lost interest in sex (and what to do about it)

Low sex drive in women: why you have lost interest in sex (and what to do about it)

The only way you can even think to describe your sex drive is that it is low or non-existent. The only way you can even begin to describe your interest in sex is that there isn't any. But you love your partner (if you have one) and you really want to say goodbye to these persistent blocks that prevent you from feeling intimate and into IT. Deep breath, this is a deep journey into your sex drive and interest in sex. Read it all and feel yourself already walking away from inhibition and being checked-out of your own personal life.

MOTHERHOOD: Are you afraid to have sex after giving birth?

MOTHERHOOD: Are you afraid to have sex after giving birth?

There are arbitrary numbers out there when it comes to birth and the postpartum period. You get a 6 week check from your GP, which somewhat attempts to lump EVERYTHING into the one basket. So, when you were informed that you could have sex (if you were informed), how did you feel? Did you feel ready or did this tick of approval see you mentally running away in your head? 

FEELINGS: Increasing your self worth by day to increase it by night

FEELINGS: Increasing your self worth by day to increase it by night

Self-worth and sex. They are inextricable. The benefit of having solid self-worth is that we start to understand the points in our lives where we are holding ourselves back from not only what we want to call in now but what we want to call in for the future as well. I really want to ask you today, is your life and sex life on a loop because your low self-worth isn’t igniting you to take any action?

Why you have a high libido (even when you think you don’t)

Why you have a high libido (even when you think you don’t)

You have a big libido. It is boundless and has everything and nothing to do with sex.

Your libido can rage and roar for the non-sexual and leave nothing in reserve for sex.

I have a high libido but it doesn’t translate clearly or directly to sex. My libido is my power source and it can burn so brightly that it burns out. I don’t like to admit this. When I use the word power source, I don’t necessarily mean it as a fuel but representative of my actual power.

Guess what happens when I don’t feel my power?

A mama’s guide to resuming sex after birth – the first year

A mama’s guide to resuming sex after birth – the first year

That first year after birth is a strange time for sex and intimacy. There is such a broad range of experiences BUT a lot of common themes. This blog is the pure permission granter for not much to happen in the bedroom after you have a baby and the reasons why. If all of this goes over your head, just take this away - you can be sexual and a mother (truth). 

SELF-PLEASURE: Empowerment and rebellion

SELF-PLEASURE: Empowerment and rebellion

When you think of an act of rebellion, you probably don't think of self-pleasure (formally known as masturbation). But it was and still is because the power women express when they are solely responsible for their own pleasure threatens millions. Relying on yourself for arousal and pleasure is empowering and there are so many bonuses because it strips away so much stress that can come into partner sex. In short, get into it (or...get onto yourself?)

REAL is the new SEXY

REAL is the new SEXY

It's 2017. 99.9% of porn is boring, fake and downright degrading. 

You - you are real and I want you to know that. I'm addressing you - the woman who keeps trying to be someone that she is not. I'm telling you right now that pressure will extinguish your flame and keep your true sexual nature far, far away. 

The 3 RULES of sex you must break.

The 3 RULES of sex you must break.

Fact: The rules of sex that govern your intimate life are actively feeding the blocks that you have about sex.

The best news is that sex doesn’t have any rules. The only foundation that everyone must have is that it is safe and consensual between two adults. Beyond that there's freedom. There’s liberation. There’s choice.

Learn the 3 biggest rules of sex you have to break to get to the pleasure.

WOMEN: The Sexual Boundaries you have to have.

WOMEN: The Sexual Boundaries you have to have.

I've worked with far too many women in long-term relationships that are completely giving their power over in sex in the name of love, compromise and giving. They haven't listened to their heart or their body and the end result is that they are going through sexual shutdown and aversion. But it isn't a one-off event that has them turning away from sex, but a series of events, sometimes appearing small and innocuous. And because so many women have enormous hearts and we put others before ourselves, we accidentally keep hurting ourselves and are actively turning ourselves off sex...

You need to part with your MONEY to gain your SEXUALITY.

You need to part with your MONEY to gain your SEXUALITY.

I am a sexual woman

I am a sexual woman who has spent $50k on my sexuality.

(At least).

Yes. You need to exchange one to receive the other. It isn’t tawdry. It is necessary.

Here’s why.

WOMEN: Your sexual problems contain the antidote

WOMEN: Your sexual problems contain the antidote

Does your list of sex and intimacy problems sound something like this :
+it irritates me when I am touched/groped/grabbed and I am doing something completely non-sexual
+it annoys me when sex is initiated with certain words...

You don't have a SEXUAL PEAK

You don't have a SEXUAL PEAK

THE SECRET IS...
YOU ARE ALWAYS PEAKING.
Just as women are multi-orgasmic so are sexual peaks. I don't believe that there is one specific time or period in your life when you are most sexual. Your sexuality is exhibited in multiple forms of expression and isn't represented by the act of sex alone. 

The true meaning of your SEXUAL FRUSTRATION and what to do about it

The true meaning of your SEXUAL FRUSTRATION and what to do about it

There is some truly excellent news about sexual frustration that you must know. The best news about sexual frustration is that you are alive and that you have a libido. Your frustration means you care enough about your sexual feelings that this feeling of being separated from your mojo actually causes pain. Frustration is the tension that informs you that you are not using your power to its full capacity.

COUPLES: The Intercourse Trap

COUPLES: The Intercourse Trap

There’s a routine that so many couples fall into that I feel called to go so far as to call it a trap. You know, the expectation that sex = intercourse or that all forms of touch and affection are a means to build up to intercourse. Or we just start skipping everything else and delve into intercourse because who needs warming up when there is familiarity? Put bluntly, it’s the intercourse trap.