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8 reasons you’re experiencing pain with sex (and how to fix them)

8 reasons you’re experiencing pain with sex (and how to fix them)

Both experiencing and anticipating pain can strip the possibility of sexual pleasure away quicker than anything else. I have come to learn so much about sexual pain and pain with sex through my clients and professional colleagues that I put together this post to let you know that you are not alone. Many of us are working tirelessly to help you feel your own version of what it is to be a woman. You are heard and we are here to help. This, is for you...

Turn-up series #1: The cost of being the cool wife

Turn-up series #1: The cost of being the cool wife

A client said to me recently that she wanted to make sure that she was the cool wife in her relationship. I started getting pictures in my mind of what that looked like and whilst she filled in the gaps with references of keeping the peace, she said that she played the cool wife because she definitely did not want to be the bitch wife...

Getting clear on sexy TOUCH

Getting clear on sexy TOUCH

Touch is the external expression of a feeling or a desire to create a feeling. And as the receiver, we know that touch is loaded with a feeling and an intention. We know when it is creepy, when it is invasive and when it is healing and nurturing.

Either way, when you touch someone, there is an agreement. All too often, it is a silent agreement and it is usually when the touch is finished that the dissatisfaction is spoken to. It does not have to play out this way.

To get some clarity on touch, here are three different touch styles that you can bring into your sex life tonight...

WOMEN: The Sexual Boundaries you have to have.

WOMEN: The Sexual Boundaries you have to have.

I've worked with far too many women in long-term relationships that are completely giving their power over in sex in the name of love, compromise and giving. They haven't listened to their heart or their body and the end result is that they are going through sexual shutdown and aversion. But it isn't a one-off event that has them turning away from sex, but a series of events, sometimes appearing small and innocuous. And because so many women have enormous hearts and we put others before ourselves, we accidentally keep hurting ourselves and are actively turning ourselves off sex...