There’s a routine that so many couples fall into that I feel called to go so far as to call it a trap. You know, the expectation that sex = intercourse or that all forms of touch and affection are a means to build up to intercourse. Or we just start skipping everything else and delve into intercourse because who needs warming up when there is familiarity? Put bluntly, it’s the intercourse trap.
Why you don’t need to tap into gratitude all the time. Here’s my issue with gratitude...I’m noticing that women are using gratitude as a cover-up. A cover-up to their genuine feelings which may be perceived to be negative or painful. Gratitude has moved into a type of deflection. But when we don’t acknowledge what we are feeling in the present moment, I don’t believe we ever truly process it. Hear how I use my own medicine as a sexologist to clear shit before pleasure.