anxiety

How to get sex started when it’s been a long time

How to get sex started when it’s been a long time

This time around, we aren’t going to talk about the why’s or the what happened’s that got you in a place of low libido, low desire and low interest although, those are important. Today, we are going to talk about 5 things you can do to break the ice when it has been a long time since you had sex. Totally realistic and totally gentle, I promise.

Permission to open : Why do I shutdown in sex?

Permission to open : Why do I shutdown in sex?

You’ve shutdown in and about sex more times than you can remember. There may have been a pivotal moment you’ll never forget or maybe it was this gradual disconnection that happened over time. Each factor compounding the last. Whatever the origin, I want to give you permission to open and move out of sexual shutdown…

How to feel sexually confident with your partner (when you’re feeling anxious)

How to feel sexually confident with your partner (when you’re feeling anxious)

There is a gap that exists between anxiety and confidence. A leap even.

It isn’t too hard to close this gap, you’ve just got to believe that anxiety isn’t your permanent state and that everything you need to become the sexual woman is inside of you. Seriously. Anxiety wants to tell you that this is how it is only, it doesn’t always tell the truth. Let’s reduce your anxiety so that you can come into confidence with the following 5 tips.

8 reasons you’re experiencing pain with sex (and how to fix them)

8 reasons you’re experiencing pain with sex (and how to fix them)

Both experiencing and anticipating pain can strip the possibility of sexual pleasure away quicker than anything else. I have come to learn so much about sexual pain and pain with sex through my clients and professional colleagues that I put together this post to let you know that you are not alone. Many of us are working tirelessly to help you feel your own version of what it is to be a woman. You are heard and we are here to help. This, is for you...

COUPLES: 5 ways to get into sex and intimacy on holidays

COUPLES: 5 ways to get into sex and intimacy on holidays

Your holiday is booked. You are so ready for the relaxation part but then you get tense thinking about all that time alone with your partner. You know they are going to want to have sex, maybe more often than usual because you are obligation free. Crap. What excuses can you use not to? What new ways can you avoid them? Well, rather than shutdown, I reckon you've got it in you to OPEN up. Here are 5 ways you can do that to make for some good quality holiday sex...

MINDSET: Why you need to stop thinking of sex as dirty

MINDSET: Why you need to stop thinking of sex as dirty

Recently, I was talking to a client about lying in the mess. You probably already know you have a problem with mess if you spring out of bed as soon as sex is finished (and it isn't just to do a wee because you are worried about a UTI). You find the mess of sex, like the fluids and lubrication all a bit messy. And messy makes you screw your nose up. Today I am asking if you could try befriending the mess a little more...

Why your anxiety and apprehension about sex is normal

Why your anxiety and apprehension about sex is normal

I want to talk to you today about anxiety in sex. And apprehension. And all the fear and jumbled, heavy, dense emotions that swell through sex for women. I did a post recently that said anxiety doesn’t want you to be sexual and I thought that I could expand upon it today because it is the reason why women come to me for coaching. It is this experience of being blocked, shutting down, numb and completely lacking libido. So much of that can be traced back to the fact that they feel anxious about sex.

SEX COACHING: Resistance doesn't want you to change

SEX COACHING: Resistance doesn't want you to change

Sex coaching inevitably brings up stuff. By that I mean it isn’t a linear process that goes from having a problem to problem solved. There are bumps in the road and the main bump is known as resistance. Resistance usually happens after you have seen a change in your sexuality, attitude and approach but really there is something bigger lurking.

PAINFUL SEX: A stop sign to sexual pleasure

PAINFUL SEX: A stop sign to sexual pleasure

Not knowing how to approach sex from the beginning of the sexual pain problem leads some down a path of aversion – If something that was pleasurable now causes pain, I just won’t do it anymore…This is logical reasoning on a part of the individual but what a loss to miss out on sexual contact and connection because of a condition that can be helped by select professionals.