What you need to watch and read when it comes to sex

Over a year ago, I created a resource list as a freebie to share with people what to read, watch and absorb when it comes to sex. 

Only that, having it as something to download makes it feel a bit fixed and isn't easy for me to edit. I see this list as a living, breathing thing that can keep being added to (and maybe even subtracted from).

My resource list has been growing for a long time. I see it as a succinct summary of what sources of creativity others have birthed that shed light on female sexuality. Before you read on, please note that some of these works are overt and some of these are subtle. Some you will already know and some will be new to you. Some you learn from and some you are a mere witness.

And best of all, most are easy to access from the library (free!) or Amazon and content is available to stream through Netflix and Stan. Easy!

Last thing, there are lots of art forms that contain sex but I have tried to keep it to quality art forms that pivot around female sexuality, experiences and desire. Also keep a look out for documentaries on sex that are pretty eye opening on streaming services.

Pretty soon, I'll be able to add my own book to the list!!



Nymphomaniac Vol I and II


Magic Mike (especially #2)

Blue is the Warmest Colour

Vicky Christina Barcelona

The Sessions

Boogie Nights


Sex, Lies and Videotape

The Dreamers



TV Shows



The Girlfriend Experience


Masters of Sex

The Affair

The L Word

Orange is the New Black

Sex and the City (obviously)


Fiction Books

Maestra, Domina + Ultima by L.S. Hilton

Inside Madeline by Paula Bomer

Tampa by Alissa Nutting

Vox by Nicholson Baker

Women by Chloe Caldwell

Desire: 100 short stories edited by Mariella Frostrup

The Darker Side of Lust by Abigail Ekue

Tipping the Velvet and Fingersmith by Sarah Waters

Delta of Venus by Anais Nin

Sex and Rage by Eve Babitz

Little Cat by Tamara Faith Berger

Her Body and Other Parties by Carmen Maria Machado

Difficult Women by Roxane Gay


Non-fiction Books

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski

Pussy: A Reclamation by Regena Thomashauer

Heart of the Flower by Andrew Barnes & Yvonne Lumsden

Love Your Lady Landscape by Lisa Lister

Slow Sex by Nicole Daedone

My Romantic Love Wars by Betty Dodson

Women’s Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston

Urban Tantra by Barbara Carellas

The Wild Oats Project by Robin Rinaldi

Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel

WomanCode by Alisa Vitti

A Handbook for My Lover by Rosalyn D'Mello

I love how  Desire  is a compilation of short stories. Variety PLUS!!

I love how Desire is a compilation of short stories. Variety PLUS!!


Erotica Websites


Erika Lust



Archer – The Journal of Sexual Diversity

The Erotic Review



Sex Criminals by Matt Fraction & Chip Zdarsky

On Loving Women by Diane Obomsawin

Clit Comics by Nicky Minus



Apollina Saintclair

Tracey Emin

Sophia Wallace


I hope you have enjoyed this preliminary list. I have no doubt that this will grow and bloom with more discoveries and input from red-blooded women! Let me know in the comments if you think there is something missing!

Lauren xo