Self-pleasure

SELF-PLEASURE: Empowerment and rebellion

SELF-PLEASURE: Empowerment and rebellion

When you think of an act of rebellion, you probably don't think of self-pleasure (formally known as masturbation). But it was and still is because the power women express when they are solely responsible for their own pleasure threatens millions. Relying on yourself for arousal and pleasure is empowering and there are so many bonuses because it strips away so much stress that can come into partner sex. In short, get into it (or...get onto yourself?)

SELF-PLEASURE: May is masturbation month!

SELF-PLEASURE: May is masturbation month!

A whole month dedicated to the art and craft of self-pleasure - oh YES!

Before I go on to explain all the why's of self-pleasure (or its other moniker masturbation) let's just all say it outright. Talking about masturbation is an awkward dialogue. The only reason why it feels far less awkward for me is because it has become more common and natural with increased frequency. I also now don't see it as a jerk-off session but a space to cherish your sexual energy - in whatever form it takes. 

FROM THE SEXOLOGISTS DESK: I am the desire huntress

FROM THE SEXOLOGISTS DESK: I am the desire huntress

So, now I am willing to share my core learning. Deep-breath-IN. The nugget that took five plus years to reveal itself to me. The reason why my sexuality evolved from being stuck, turning away from sex, being passive, stopping sex and denying pleasure TO asking for pleasure, being sexually satisfied, attuned to my body’s sensations and ultimately a sex goddess...

SELF-PLEASURE: Why is sex for one still taboo?

SELF-PLEASURE: Why is sex for one still taboo?

Our longest sexual relationship is with ourselves yet there is still a lot of shame and embarrassment around masturbation / self-pleasuring / self-sex. Maybe because we have had mixed responses: boredom, exhilaration, guilt, pleasure, release and disgust.