Orgasm

Permission to not orgasm : Why we need to take the pressure off orgasm

Permission to not orgasm : Why we need to take the pressure off orgasm

Sex = orgasm, right?

Wrong! Sex = connection, intimacy, pleasure, joy, arousal, tranquility and MORE. Orgasm is one part of sex but it’s not the whole thing. Are you ready? You are about to receive the medicine your libido needs and it is: permission to not orgasm.

BODY: Why your partner hasn’t seen you orgasm (and what you can do)

BODY: Why your partner hasn’t seen you orgasm (and what you can do)

I wanted to take the time today to explore what is going on for her internally and to propose what she can do to experience this act of elation, this act of opening, this act of vulnerability with the person that she loves most. The focus here is on having her orgasm witnessed or seen by her partner – not what he can do to make her come (not my niche). I have found that this issue really isn’t about the skills in sex - this isn't about him not having the ability to facilitate her arousal and help her move towards orgasm. The block is more with her holding her own orgasm back.

LOW LIBIDO: Alcohol could be a cause

I see alcohol as being full of false promise and creating inauthentic sex, like temporary glue between people that is quick to unstick. There are times when we turn to sex for closeness and alcohol creates a shallow version of this. We are under the influence with an external substance when our bodies are capable of creating all the good feelings of sex.

ORGASM: The role of oxytocin in sex

The more you look at oxytocin, the more amazing it appears. Beyond its role in uterine contractions and maternal bonding with baby, it is seen to be vital to human adaptive responses in the formation of monogamous pair-bonds, sexual arousal and orgasm, peer to peer social interaction, social memory, trust and anxiety reduction.

SEXUAL AROUSAL: Feeling blocked?

SEXUAL AROUSAL: Feeling blocked?

When the sexual body doesn’t seem to follow what the heart and mind want, it feels as though there is something wrong and we have a sexual problem on our hands that feels unsolvable. We try, we persist and we make attempts to physically get into sex but something is amiss and the answer is: arousal.

ORGASM: A good sex muscle can help

ORGASM: A good sex muscle can help

Our Pubococcygeus (PC) muscle saddles our pelvic floor and is responsible for urine flow, enhancing orgasm and sexual pleasure and supporting women’s internal sexual anatomy (especially during pregnancy). The eastern world has known for years that our sex muscle can mean improved sexual functioning and health.