PAINFUL SEX

Way too many women are enduring painful sex when they don't have to.

I really love helping women to bud open, to resume or start to have intercourse and above all... to turn down the volume on pain and turn up the volume on pleasure. 

If you are reading this, you have probably been through medical channels and you may even have a diagnosis. What I have to offer in perfectly complimentary to what is offered in western medicine because often, medical practitioners don't have the time to work with your feelings and mindset when it comes to pain or to guide you through very specific techniques. 

Here is what I believe works best :: firstly, attend your GP for a referral to a gynaecologist (if you don't have one). It is very possible that your gynaecologist will complete a full examination and investigations. Should your pelvic floor and adjoining muscles require specific exercises and conditioning (or relaxation in the case of a too-tight pelvic floor), you may then be referred to a pelvic floor physiotherapist. This is a gold standard approach to ensure that you are receiving the most comprehensive care. Women usually start seeing me to assist their pain with sex when they recognise that there are beliefs around sex that need to be shed. They might have started using dilators (a graded system of tools that assist the muscles surrounding the vagina to relax and open) and then need more input about how to get touch flowing whilst keeping their comfort a priority. 

Some definitions: Painful sex, sexual pain or dyspareunia are terms used by health professionals to gain a deeper understanding of a human experience that can be confusing and troubling. Dyspareunia can present internally, externally or both and the causes of it vary. Childbirth, trauma to the genitals, unwanted sexual experiences, psychological distress around sex, dryness, infections, chronic medical conditions, scarring and fear or anxiety.

Vaginismus is a spasm or contraction of the muscles that surround the vagina and is a known source of pain, discomfort and distress for women. It can interfere with sexual intercourse, tampon insertion and medical examinations because penetration is difficult or cannot be achieved at all.

Regardless of whether you experience dyspareunia or vaginismus, if the pain continues over time, anticipating the pain can be a cause of the pain and a frustrating cycle continues.

I value assisting women with sexual pain as there are often options that your GP or gynaecologist may have missed. There are opportunities to explore how your pain could become more manageable so that it no longer dictates what type of sex life you have. Please get in touch if you would like to move through your experiences of painful sex in a safe, confidential space.