FEMALE SEXUALITY: Sex in your 20’s

People often equate sex in your 20’s with freedom, big nights out, exploration and one-night stands. The intentions for sex are fun, fun and more fun. Carefree. Open. Spirited. So what happens when you hit your 20’s, find a great partner and are in it for the long haul? Does it mean that these qualities of sex just disappear as we get to know our partner inside and out? As human nature goes when we nestle into commitment, it can go this way. But it doesn’t have to.

I am seeing an increasing number of women in my practice who are in their 20’s. I would love to share with you what brings them to Sexosophy and what it is they are looking for because I want to normalise these experiences. There is no script for how sex in your 20’s should play out and this can be the trap. When women hit a roadblock with their sexuality, they think that something is wrong. In my experience, sexuality isn’t so black and white and this roadblock calls for us to address other lifestyle factors and ways of relating that may have run their course. 

Your 20’s are a time for blossoming and maturing and with this comes a lot of heaviness. Concepts like responsibility, commitment, contracts, obligations and duties can begin to feel all encompassing as you exert a lot of your energy on keeping it together, staying on top of things and working it all out. To add a bit more to the mix, your personality is developing until around 25 years of age and just when you feel sure of things and your identity, your Saturn Return at age 27-28 can swivel this another 180 degrees. Phew!

When we look at our 20’s from this perspective, it becomes a lot clearer how authentic female sexuality can be left in the wind. Or in the club. Or in your last share house. Because moving into womanhood calls for change and new on an ongoing basis, a lot of our libidinous energy can be sapped in the whirlpool of obligations. 

Because obligations never end, we do ourselves a disservice when we choose them again and again over libido and sexual expression.

This is the basis for a lot of women choosing sex coaching- the realisation that they don’t feel sexual desire, libido or are having problems with sensation, including orgasm.

When you take notice of the warning signs and have a look at where your sexuality is at, you are undertaking early intervention as opposed to crisis management. Investing in your sexuality is a sound investment because it has a flow on effect to your whole being. It is incredible to look back at how much our expressed and repressed sexuality determines so much of our behaviour and life choices. 

Women attending Sexosophy in their 20’s are having great realisations, a lot of laughs and are putting new information into action – embodying the sensuality and sexuality that is true for them through new ways of being. The skills and perspectives I share with you are real world and they carry through with you into your 30’s, 40’s and beyond. How do I know this? Because I speak from experience.

Sex in your 20’s- I get it. 

Lauren xo