SEXUAL FRUSTRATION: The choice to tend to your sexuality or leave it behind

This week, I read a line that resonated like nothing else. I inhaled and said thank you to “the little voice that said that leaving my sexuality behind would never give me... the sensations I craved” (Nicole Daedone in Slow Sex).

It is a real phenomenon that we are faced with every day – the choice to leave your sexuality behind or to pursue it. Life isn’t always that black and white but when it comes to sexuality, we can often treat it as something that we can take or leave. It is so easy to stand on that edge that tempts us to abandon it all because we are feeling too much pain, a lot of disappointment and overwhelming frustration; all on top of being numb inside. But when we choose to embrace it, surrender to it and seek more experiences, we start to tune into that part of us that feels magic and possibility. The paradox is that sexuality experiences don’t have to be sexual. Choose activities that honour your sex sense (see the post on this in April) and wade back into the waters. All too often we see people pent up their sexuality to the point that it ends up exploding on someone or something that doesn’t serve them and this carries its own weight.

On stepping back from that edge, we start to notice the things that grate against sexuality and its sensations– rules and regulations, poor boundaries, addictions to technology, a lack of love for the body, mind and soul connection and apathy. Authentic sexuality is the answer to so many questions and gets us back to living life as a human being rather than a human doing and it is here that we being to find our Sexosophy...

Lauren xo