SEXUAL ENERGY: Cross-training your sex life

Habit can spell the end of sexual enjoyment. When you’ve reached a point where you know exactly what to expect on your own and with another, the routine that you used to know and love so well starts to be equated with boredom.

I believe sexual boredom causes blockages in our body because it signifies a point past where we could have introduced variety or variation. It’s a space of being stuck and we stick with habit purely because it is familiar, safe and known. The shadow is that it’s dull and dampens that hunger that sexual expression needs to be vibrant. Sex is life-force energy after all, not a mechanical operation.

Cross-training your sex life involves injecting novelty and variety inward. But rather than suggest old favourites like lingerie or a night at a hotel, I’d like to guide you more towards creating some long-lasting pathways that will really mean something to you.

Firstly, play with speed in your sex play. Really amp up your movements including your hands, hips and vocals to be fast and loud. When your arousal builds to what you feel is 80%, then bring it back down with your breath and motions to make everything slow, considered and deep. Play with fast and slow and what lies in-between. More specific tips and skills are shared in my sex coaching sessions!

Secondly, do your weights – your Lelo luna bead weights that is! A ship-shape pelvic floor (or PC muscle) is vital to giving our arousal and orgasm the bounce it needs to really disperse throughout our body. Get in touch if you want to know more about luna beads (available from the beautiful Mia Muse).

Lastly, cross train by not lying down. Why? Lying down reminds us of sleeping and lounging, not arousal, which is what we are often seeking with sex. I challenge you to have a sex session where you can move in any way or in any position but lying down. Create a new positive habit with kneeling, stretching, standing, squatting, sitting upright…anything. Give yourself a chance to explore arousal in a more aroused and alert state.

I love sharing new perspectives on sex and novelty with my clients. If you are a woman looking to overcome being sexually blocked, why not get in touch with me for sex coaching sessions? Together, we can break habits so that you can move forward in your sexual journey.

Lauren xo