Your libido and money - reflections of worth and pleasure

Your libido and money - reflections of worth and pleasure

Libido….

Money….

Is there a connection there? I reckon there is! When women get clear on their worth and on the money that comes into their lives, they get more comfortable within their sexual expression because their bodies aren’t in fear and contraction. When the money and worth flows nicely, so too does the sexual energy…

What you need to watch and read when it comes to sex

What you need to watch and read when it comes to sex

Ever gone looking for something to read or watch that had an element of the erotic in it but you just haven’t known where to look? Well, I have some of the answers for you (I say some because I am factoring in how you and I might have different tastes). Here it is: a list of art forms that could get your pulse going…’cos we all need a little nudge every now and then and this is a safe and exciting way to do that (50 Shades free).

Help! I want to get our old sex life back!

Help! I want to get our old sex life back!

Wanting it BACK and getting it BACK can give you a little bit of mojo to re-prioritise your sex life when it’s been quiet. Positive sexual memories are so important when we’re lost at sea but you aren’t actually going that way… The following is my two-prong approach to instilling hope and life into your next sexual chapter.

Bored with your sex life? What to do when sex isn’t fun anymore

Bored with your sex life? What to do when sex isn’t fun anymore

You’ve got to source the treasure to get to the pleasure…

You can't have a desert in your relationship and expect the bedroom to be in full bloom (well, unless the whole desert thing turns you on.)

So, if familiarity and boredom are the status quo in your relationship then it's time for a shake up. So here it is: a pleasure map containing 10 big tips to source or re-source the treasure in your relationship.

8 ways to feel your libido as a mum

8 ways to feel your libido as a mum

Nits, hospital visits, daycare runs, playdates, screaming...it can all feel very...unsexy.

If you are a mama looking for a quick checklist to getting moving back with your libido again then here are my 8 hottest tips. Remember, you can be both a mama and sexual (this is your new mantra). 

 

How to prioritise your sex life when you are busy

How to prioritise your sex life when you are busy

Busy, flustered, run down and overwhelmed are the name of the modern-day game. But all of these states spell something seriously toxic for your beautiful libido.

This blog needs to come with a warning for it’s exceptionally high level of truth talk where I kindly inform you that you aren’t actually busy (but you are choosing to be) and how you can create space for intimacy all by unearthing a few old time blocks.

How to feel sexually confident with your partner (when you’re feeling anxious)

How to feel sexually confident with your partner (when you’re feeling anxious)

There is a gap that exists between anxiety and confidence. A leap even.

It isn’t too hard to close this gap, you’ve just got to believe that anxiety isn’t your permanent state and that everything you need to become the sexual woman is inside of you. Seriously. Anxiety wants to tell you that this is how it is only, it doesn’t always tell the truth. Let’s reduce your anxiety so that you can come into confidence with the following 5 tips.

What to do when your partner has a higher libido than you

What to do when your partner has a higher libido than you

They have a HIGH libido and I have none.

Words I have heard a bazillion times but simply aren’t true. Can you hear me? They aren’t true! This one is for both of you: how you can feel your libido when you are out of touch with it and how your partner with the “higher” libido can meet you in more ways than sexually. This is an important read.

Intimacy after deployment: 7 practical tips for couples feeling awkward after a long deployment or separation

Intimacy after deployment: 7 practical tips for couples feeling awkward after a long deployment or separation

Hands up who has done a long-distance relationship?

I have and it was…testing. I didn’t know then what I know now but if I did, maybe those earlier years would have been a little more connecting. The following is my best-of when it comes to advice for getting back into intimacy for those in a relationship with a partner who does fly-in-fly-out or goes on deployment. I know it isn’t easy but hopefully some of this settles the bumps and awkwardness that happens when you reunite after a big period of enforced separation.

If he’s the love of my life, then why am I not sexually interested in my husband?

If he’s the love of my life, then why am I not sexually interested in my husband?

Long-term relationships are riddled with sexual disinterest. But why?

Shouldn’t things get better as our love grows deeper? One of the biggest conundrums my clients have is getting their heads and bodies around the fact that you can feel safe and in love but not want to have sex. If this is you, read on to get some insights into what could be going on and what you can shift to get the interest flowing again.

The 5 best sexual positions for when you feel anxious and shy in sex (and missionary isn’t one of them!)

The 5 best sexual positions for when you feel anxious and shy in sex (and missionary isn’t one of them!)

Oh missionary. It works but, let’s be honest.

It is kind of in the realm of been-there-done-that.

Just because you feel shy, awkward or inhibited in sex, doesn’t mean that you need to stick to the one bland flavour of sexual intercourse. Deep breath, here are 5 alternative sexual positions that will help you to feel comfortable as you open up to intimacy.

From the sexologists desk: Permission Book UPDATE

From the sexologists desk: Permission Book UPDATE

So. I am writing a book.

And I’m not just saying this off the cuff.

It is well and truly in motion. Happening.

And I want you to be the first to learn ALL about it as it plods (or more aptly flows) along.

Learn more inside about how the idea came to me and what the process of writing a book is like!

Why your libido should be the start of your new beginning

Why your libido should be the start of your new beginning

Whenever we crave a fresh start, our sexuality isn't the first place we usually start. Unfortunately, it usually gets relegated to the 'I'll deal with it later pile'. This is a shame because looking inward at our sexuality and libido can treat the rest of our problems with such potent medicine and make our personal growth to-do list a whole lot smaller. 

Today, I invite you to ask if your libido can be a part of your fresh start (and I'll give you some tips to do that!)

What do you do if you are not sexually satisfied? (rather than pretend you don’t care)

What do you do if you are not sexually satisfied? (rather than pretend you don’t care)

Ahhh satisfaction - that sweet end point where we hunger no more.

But how do we know when we feel it? How do we know when we have arrived? 

Only you can answer that one so if you are feeling like frustration is ruling your bedroom and satisfaction is nowhere to be seen, read this one to make sure you aren't accidentally overlooking your sexual satisfaction (it could well be right in front of you!)

8 reasons you’re experiencing pain with sex (and how to fix them)

8 reasons you’re experiencing pain with sex (and how to fix them)

Both experiencing and anticipating pain can strip the possibility of sexual pleasure away quicker than anything else. I have come to learn so much about sexual pain and pain with sex through my clients and professional colleagues that I put together this post to let you know that you are not alone. Many of us are working tirelessly to help you feel your own version of what it is to be a woman. You are heard and we are here to help. This, is for you...

COUPLES: 5 ways to get into sex and intimacy on holidays

COUPLES: 5 ways to get into sex and intimacy on holidays

Your holiday is booked. You are so ready for the relaxation part but then you get tense thinking about all that time alone with your partner. You know they are going to want to have sex, maybe more often than usual because you are obligation free. Crap. What excuses can you use not to? What new ways can you avoid them? Well, rather than shutdown, I reckon you've got it in you to OPEN up. Here are 5 ways you can do that to make for some good quality holiday sex...

Low sex drive in women: why you have lost interest in sex (and what to do about it)

Low sex drive in women: why you have lost interest in sex (and what to do about it)

The only way you can even think to describe your sex drive is that it is low or non-existent. The only way you can even begin to describe your interest in sex is that there isn't any. But you love your partner (if you have one) and you really want to say goodbye to these persistent blocks that prevent you from feeling intimate and into IT. Deep breath, this is a deep journey into your sex drive and interest in sex. Read it all and feel yourself already walking away from inhibition and being checked-out of your own personal life.

MOTHERHOOD: Are you afraid to have sex after giving birth?

MOTHERHOOD: Are you afraid to have sex after giving birth?

There are arbitrary numbers out there when it comes to birth and the postpartum period. You get a 6 week check from your GP, which somewhat attempts to lump EVERYTHING into the one basket. So, when you were informed that you could have sex (if you were informed), how did you feel? Did you feel ready or did this tick of approval see you mentally running away in your head? 

FEELINGS: Increasing your self worth by day to increase it by night

FEELINGS: Increasing your self worth by day to increase it by night

Self-worth and sex. They are inextricable. The benefit of having solid self-worth is that we start to understand the points in our lives where we are holding ourselves back from not only what we want to call in now but what we want to call in for the future as well. I really want to ask you today, is your life and sex life on a loop because your low self-worth isn’t igniting you to take any action?

MEN: How to support your female partner with sex problems

MEN: How to support your female partner with sex problems

When women come and see me in sessions, I am very aware of the fact that (if she is in a relationship) that I am also, in some ways, seeing her partner in sessions as well…without actually seeing him. We women have created some habits that we need your support to shift. There's so much we want men to know about us but we get stuck with how to tell you. So today, I am playing translator to let men know how they can support their female partner when it feels like she is checking out of their sex life.